First Love or Last Love — What Lasts?
The first thing to understand is what love means. Anyone may have a different opinion depending on their intellect and perception.
Are we to confuse Love with Infatuation?
Infatuation usually happens in the TEENS when there is a sexual bloom in the body, or in the paradise of the opposite sex. There is so much to explore and discover.
I’m not saying that there is a lack of Commitment or a dearth of Emotional Communication. But yes, there is certainly a scarcity of Depth and Understanding.
Love at this stage doesn’t go far beyond discovering the best of each other — drooling with a feather in the cap, or specifically, if permitted, exploring sensuality and sexuality.
Do such relationships have a lifetime? If yes, then how much?
In a modern SciFi, HiFI, WiFi world where relationships happen and die at the drop of a hat, what more can be said about ‘being in love than the fact that people love each other?
In the age of uncensored Netflix, Zee5 and Prime videos, do these romantic alliances have a meaning?
I may be labelled as an oldie, but Forty-five years ago in my teens, this kind of alliance had meaning. I still drool and remember with reverence the first love swing I had. I said ‘hello’ to my ‘heart throb’ with paramount pressure.
I feel that in the modern era, FIRST LOVE at a so-called tender age carries no meaning.
It is like taking a chance in the Shopper’s stop trial room, and deciding which suits to wear and what to leave on the hanger.
I strongly believe that there is a meaning to THE LAST LOVE.
It can be an arduous task to find someone whose ‘first love’ was also their ‘last love.’ Quite frankly, it is hard to believe.
With malice towards none, I think that Love that happens in the middle age when life has started revealing the evening hue of colours — IS the LOVE of life.
When the usual family and social obligations take a back seat — when the ignition buttons of the sensual sedan show signs of carbon coating and fail to take off — when the marital status is a mere compromise and a duty to be fulfilled — Love at this stage is the thing to cherish.
Love sees and tolerates the greying and sagging and the physical limp. It stands strong, defending the pedestal of a Meaningful Relationship.
There is more understanding … the ability to forgive, compromise and adjust in every way.
There is only one bond that really seals the duo, and that is an emotional and mental connection.
It is like drowning, someone who holds everything tightly to survive. In the twilight years of life, the greener pastures dry up and the flowers rarely show during spring.
Holding on to LOVE is the only option. This lasts ’til the last breath.
I believe that it should ‘last’ because this is the LAST, and what ‘lasts’ is loneliness and bewilderment.
